I think since a lot of us here are writers, we could have another thread to discuss this elsewhere (because obviously we're all interested in talking about it and we all have unique viewpoints). Anyone want to start that?
Also for me writing smut, specifically NezuShi smut (because all my other writing has been on hold for a couple years), I don't find the terms to be too difficult... Like, it's a little bit of a challenge, but if I'm writing a sex scene at all, it's for a very specific purpose, and it's usually focusing on what's happening as a result of that. How do I put that into better words... It's focused on the emotions of the scene, not the mechanics of everything.